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What Do Your Friends See in You?

Posted May 31, 2016

snowboard instruction

Turns out our parents were right — it does matter which crowd you hang out with.

Consciousness is contagious, and the friends you choose can help or hurt.

So I ask you: Are your friends aligned with your highest purpose? How does their view of the world — and their view of you — affect your future?

Click here for the blog on Patheos.


How to Survive This Election Cycle

Posted May 25, 2016

old campaign buttonsI'll confess, as I watch campaign coverage, I sometimes shake my head and cluck my tongue like an old woman.

I struggle to find the spiritual lessons in this upheaval we're going through to choose the next president.

Then I remembered, this is a hallway! This is a place between what has been and what will be, a time of uncertainty that can be difficult, painful, scary or downright hell.

We have the same opportunities in a mass hallway that we do in our personal hallways — no less than transformation. That's what the blog is about this week.

Read it here.


The Answer to Why

Posted May 17, 2016


Every job has parts that are drudgery, but we do them anyway.


That's the question - why do you do what you do? Is it rewarding, fun, challenging, at least most of the time? It's important to know why.

I ran a cross a wonderful video called “Know Your Why” and wanted to share it with you this week. It's on my blog today at Patheos.

photo by Katie Sayer on flickr CC


Killing Your Darlings

Posted May 10, 2016

men in old-time newsroom

You won't be surprised to learn that as a writer, I spend a lot of time editing.

And editing turns out to be a pretty good metaphor for life.

What isn't quite working? What is overdone or droning on too long? Where is the superfluous fluff, the parts that aren't necessary to the arc of your story?

The trouble is, sometimes we have to cut our favorite bits, the parts we're attached to. In the newsroom, we called it “killing your darlings.”

I blogged about it this week on Patheos.


Knuckleheads: 3 Reasons to Let Them Live

Posted May 3, 2016

frustrated woman in traffic

I will grant you, I write pretty often about how to handle annoying and difficult people. (I hope that doesn't annoy you!)

The reason is not because I'm so irritable — well, that's not the only reason — but because other people keep asking me how to deal with life's minor-to-medium conflicts.

Unless you're really Zen, you might be giving a lot of your energy to people or events that don't go the way you'd prefer, even knowing you can't change them and can only choose your reaction.

So I blogged about it (again) today in the hope of finding some clarity. It is here on Patheos — a quick read. Let me know if you have better ideas for dealing with annoyances!


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